• Dan

2020 Wedding Season

The 2020 wedding season is nearly upon us! It’s this time of year that I start prepping for what is sure to be a busy, hectic, yet totally enjoyable summer. With new flavours, ideas, trends and venues I can’t wait to explore. I do however, always think of my many brides and grooms who are now at, what can be, a nail biting and stage of the wedding planning process. It also reminds me of my own very happy big day, back in July 2016 where I got married to Niall on a swelteringly hot summer’s day. Although a professional ice cream man these days, I am also a qualified wedding planner and always love to take the opportunity where I can, to chat to my couples at the different stages of their wedding planning process. Nine times of out ten, they all seem to usually come across the same problems, so I thought that I would jot these down for you. It might help you, or friends or relatives, to help take the stress out of your day. So here’s my Ten Top Tips for a Tip Top Wedding. 1. A cliche, but remember first and foremost it’s your day, your way! This was a phrase I came across whilst planning our wedding. ‘You and Your Wedding’ magazine became my absolute bible, and this was a coined phrase I used from them, and I couldn’t agree with it more. An example of this, is that we didn’t want children at our wedding. A very personal and potentially controversial decision, but it’s what we wanted. It was an adult affair for us, and although tricky at times, we stuck to our guns and friends and family respected our decision. It may sometimes feel like being selfish, but remember, your day, your way. 2. Try and stick to a budget. It is so very easy to go over. I’m so happy I married a man that loves a spreadsheet! I would not have enjoyed the day knowing that we had years of scrimping ahead of us to pay it all off. Who wants to start their married life up to their eyeballs in debt?  There are so many clever ways to save money these days and still have a fabulous wedding. Although, don’t ever skimp on the ice cream 😜 that is essential. 3. The guest list is probably one of the hardest things to do. Nobody wants to upset people. However, there has to be a limit at most weddings and generally, people will understand if they don’t make the cut. We both have small families, so we were able to invite everyone we wanted to experience the whole day and evening which was amazing. But as I’ve said before, it’s your day. If you want to invite more people as evening guests later on, then do it! Go with your gut instinct, it’s rarely wrong. 4. With blended families, step parents, extended families and sometimes feuds, there can often be tensions and headaches surrounding invites and table plans. It’s sad that we sometimes have to deal with these. The only advise I can give you is to try and nip things in the bud beforehand. Speak to those involved, explaining that any bad behaviour will not be tolerated. Usually, everyone wants what’s best for you and your day so stay strong and do what you feel is best for you and your partner. Sometimes tough decisions have to be made, but deep down we often know what we have to do. 5. We could not have had our perfect day it if had not been with the help from our friends and family. I was lucky, my Mum is one of the most amazing florists you’ve ever seen, so that helped enormously with budget and style! But do ask for help. Especially if any friends or family have particular talents. Delegate roles wisely. My bridesmaid was not only stunning (I hope you’re reading this Emma!), she knows how to have a good time, but is also sensible when she needs to be and made sure I got home from my stag do in one piece. She has incredible organisational skills and is also completely diplomatic. All your different friends and family will have different attributes. Use them! In the nicest of ways of course. 6. Following on from this, the other vital role at our wedding for us was master of ceremonies. Not only a good friend, he ensured the smooth running of the day, including the speeches and even sung us a little song in true Irish style! There was no other man for the job and he certainly stepped up to the challenge. So much so in fact he is now one is Sussex’s leading celebrants and has made an amazing a career out of it. At the end of the day, you do not want to be worrying about what comes next, and who will do this, and who speaks when. Having someone like stewart helped us relax and enjoy the day so much more. If you don’t fancy having a friend do this, there are a variety of toastmasters and masters of ceremonies that give your day a fluidity that looks slick to you and your guests. 7. Timeline of the day! My five most important words EVER! If you take anything from this piece, take note of this. A timeline of the day is crucial to the success of your wedding day. Without it, know one will know what’s going on, including you! No one wants military precision (ok, maybe I did a little 😂) but to know the running order of what happens when is needed from suppliers to grandparents! Having at least a rough idea of how long things take (and believe me, they all take longer than you think), will help everyone (including you!) relax and enjoy it so much more. Once you have a timeline, organising caterers, suppliers, entertainment, etc will all fit into place and being able to see this written down helps to envisage the day enormously. 8. Choose quality suppliers that have integrity. All these people, will have an impact on your day. They are there with you, it’s almost like having extra guests in a way. Wedding Fayres are a great way of meeting your photographer, your videographer, your cake maker, and so on and so forth. Oh and ice cream supplier....of course! We often meet people and instantly like them or get a feel for their work. Go with that feeling, see what they do and have done before. I love meeting my couples face to face, I get such a great understanding of how they are having their day and what they want from me. There’s no rush, go with who you want and who will fit into your wedding. 9. Don’t sweat the small stuff. This is easy to say with hindsight but you can caught up in the minutiae of wedding planning and you have to realise that some things really don’t matter. ‘Let them eat, drink and be merry’ is always my motto, and the stark reality is that if you’re achieving this, you’re already half way there! My attention to detail is part of who I am, and I will never be able to let go of that. It’s what helps me be successful at what I do. However, looking back on my big day, there were things that concerned me that really needn’t have. No one else noticed, and I caused myself unnecessary stress in the process! 10. ENJOY IT!! This will most probably be not only only the most expensive day of your life, but also hopefully the BEST day of your life. So after all this hard work and effort, you’d better make sure you go out there and enjoy it! Take a moment in the day to take a step back with your partner, just the two of you, and take stock of how wonderful it all is and what you’ve achieved. Congratulations! You did it! I really hope that I get to be part of your wonderful wedding day. For enquiries please contact me on 07931 514991 or email me

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